Nov 29th ThursHigashi Azabu, Tokyo. Being fresh off the boat and a little naive at the time, I was amazed at how much of the entertainment revolved around sexual games and innuendo centered on the office ladies in their early 20s. At the time, I marked it up as a quirky cultural difference, and had a great time experiencing that outlandish aspect of Japanese culture.
Of the many evening alcohol-infused games played, one involved the young office ladies paired with low to middle manager types, and standing in a row.
The object of the game was for each of the OLs to push a ping pong ball up the pant leg of the manager they were paired with, around his crotch, and then down the other pant leg. The first girl to get the ball up one pant leg and out the other was the winner. Well the system of elders and their subjects groveling at their every word in order to keep their minimum Dinosaur in japanese office sexual harassment job would be considered power harassment elsewhere but is the norm here so how do you label that?
Dinosaur in japanese office sexual harassment found that Japanese women in their 20s are very shy but from 30 on up they are the flip opposite and let you know too!
Straight and narrow people! Having worked in Tokyo for almost 10 years, I'd say very little of what you mentioned has changed.
Of course, not a single woman in a managerial role in any of their affiliated companies. None I've particularly noticed at my job. Some of these guys would tell her ridiculously personal stories about their hard luck with women or troubles with their wives.
When she'd relate one of these sob stories to me at dinner, it would always creep me out. My company has several very effective committees taking care of problems like that. A lot of times, problems have happened because people weren't informed about what constitutes 'harassment' so a large part of their job is the dissemination of information.
We even have a committee taking care of alcohol harassment. The custom of peer-pressuring people into drinking a lot is disappearing too, nothing like the bubble jidai, Good thing too. Being the youngest woman in our male-dominated office has made me a target for sexual harassment especially when there is alcohol involved.
For instance, a drunken co-worker had offered to take me home. In another case, one of my supervisors grabbed me by the waist and tried
Dinosaur in japanese office sexual harassment lift me playfully and he wasn't even drunk.
Many many many years ago when I was working in a electronics company, some of the male staff could be a bit over the top with innuendo not really harassment, more like stupiditymost of which I just let go.
I was young and naive Well being that we are self-employed,I'm always harassing the missus to give me some. Trying to get her to work on her multi-tasking,which isn't really a Japanese thing per se.
In our school system, Power or Sexual Harassment are not tolerated. Accusations will quickly be forwarded up to Central Office and if substantiated, someone's getting re-trained at best, their contract terminated at worst. At my husband's workplace last year, he went on a trip and brought back the requisite omiyage cookies.
When he started to hand them out around the office, his boss demanded "Why are doing women's work?! Hubby was too shocked for words. Is hubby a westerner? If so, I can see how he would've been shocked. Heck, when I go on trip I don't believe in the requisite omiyage. The only souvenirs I bring are for a couple people in the circle. I had a coworker in the early nineties. She was gorgeous, seriously. She was also very touchy-feely, flirtatious, and openly sexual.
But she was that way to every guy in our office, married like me or not. I'll admit it felt good, not having been in the handsome movie star line when faces were handed out. But, I finally called her and told her "I'm starting to think things I shouldn't" and nicely as much as I hated to do it asked her to stop, and she did.
What's the significance of that -t- in parenthesis? There are women like her most big companies. So do you regret it? The OLs Dinosaur in japanese office sexual harassment yesteryears are
Dinosaur in japanese office sexual harassment for a good decade or more and these days everyone fetches their own cup of green tea. That among other abuses convinced him to switch jobs after a year.
Now things are much better. A lot happened that you'd think was stories, but dinosaurs do indeed walk among us. Perhaps not in many newer younger companies thank goodness.
In my early days in Japan I was shocked to the core to witness the following scenes:. A young OL being tricked into saying the word "condom" and then being slapped hard on the head by her supervisor for being rude. A middle-aged OL being forced to demonstrate golf swings by a senior, who then used the opportunity to grope her butt and breasts in front of everybody else. A female colleague mentioning that she was hungry, and her male supervisor pointing to his crotch and saying, "eat this!