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How to deal with online hookup rejection

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Online dating over 50 is a petri dish for weird behaviors, a lot of it kind of fascinating. But one of the weirdest behaviors is the phenomenon of people getting their feelings hurt by, and reacting angrily to, people they haven't even met.

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Or perhaps we met once, didn't have a great date and thought it was OK to politely go our separate ways, only to find that the other person thought a trip to Paris and marriage was on tap for the next date. I guess I would have thought once you hit 50, committing a felony wouldn't be on anyone's bucket list, but I've met several women who have dated recently-convicted felons, and I have dated two, one of whom was wearing her court-ordered ankle bracelet on our date.

But back to the hurt feelings. A couple of years ago, when I was dealing with a fair amount of family "stuff," I had to postpone a scheduled first date sort of at the last minute. Not a wonderful thing to do, but not a crime either.

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I apologetically texted the woman to explain. She wrote back, "How dare you cancel! Don't ever contact me again. Well, thanks for the warning. I won't, especially now that I have How to deal with online hookup rejection idea how she would react if I did something really wrong. I hear about this all the time from women. They cordially correspond with a guy, maybe chat on the phone, and decide - as they have every right to - that they don't want to pursue things. Then they get one, two or more hostile, even hateful, emails from the guy, as though they had broken up after years together.

I've had several first dates where we enjoyed each other but things didn't heat up enough intellectually, spiritually and physically, to go to the next step only to get texts or emails along the lines of "Most men I meet can't WAIT to see me again! Another potential date this one was three to four years ago, but the memory is clear and I texted back and forth about when and where to meet.

I said something like, instead of 4 p. Not exaggerating - this was the trivial level of the conversation. She angrily replied that she had never been treated so poorly by anyone. I don't remember this particular form of insanity from my younger dating days.

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Don't get me wrong. I dated people of marginal stability and I certainly behaved crazily toward some.

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